A few weeks back I turned the big 3-0! I had a great day with my family and we had a fun celebration! I don't know why we as humans make such a big deal out of numbers but I am guilty of it as well, I remember when I first turned 20 I had all these weird expectations of by this date I better have this and that accomplished by, but over the past ten years I realized life doesn't work linear and its great to have a goal but never an end date, as life is constantly changing and so are circumstances and to be honest I am glad, the goals I had for myself at 20 are probably entirely different than the goals I have now at 30! I can say my 20s weren't your typical twenties, as I wasn't out partying or exploring I was thrown into parenthood with a sick baby, so my first few years were learning how to take care of a tiny baby with very specific and special needs, learning how to travel places with an oxygen tank and as he became a toddler learning how to adapt to his sensory needs as well. It definitely wasn't all fun and games but I can say I am happy how it went in a way because Lincoln prepped me for mother hood full on and I found having Autumn was actually pretty easy and we adapted well! Then of course following with Ryder I can't really say he has been "easy" he's been joyful and busy! Lots of my twenties were filled with travels and excitement and love! of course lots of self discovery (this has been huge), loss and grief. I don't suspect my 30s will be perfect nor easy but I do feel a much more stable state than my twenties!
Ok I can't say I have too many wisdom's on turning 30 but I do have a few thoughts that I have learned in my 20s!
If i could tell my 20 year old self something it would be
- Intentionally surround your self with people who support YOU. I am not saying people who support you because you have a certain political view, a certain religion or a certain stereotype attached to you. Because those things can be apart of who you are but they don't make up your self worth, they don't DEFINE you. I really haven't found many people who actually support me without those things, I am thankful I have a couple of friends who actually love me for me, and a few family members who take me as I am, and for that I am forever grateful.
- reevalute your belief system say every 5 years - what title you give your self, stop and question wait WHY? You may decide you no longer feel the same way or you may come back feeling stronger about your choices and beliefs, and either way thats great.
- Travel and explore as much as possible! The more you know the better off you are!
- soak up the love from family and friends and always say I love you, because you never know if those are the last words you may say to them.
- This point is one I don't do enough but HAVE FUN, life isn't meant to always be so serious so give your self time to play!
- do things your afraid of - everytime I have pushed myself out of my confort zone I normally at the end feel really glad I did it!
what about you? any valuable life lessons you learned in your twenties!? id love to know!